10 More Things You Should Never Say to Your Mate

Posted: August 21, 2010 in Uncategorized

// 10 More Things You Should Never Say to Your Mate

Everybody crosses the line once in a while in a heated argument with their mate. Yep, your big mouth can get you in trouble and if the verbal offense is serious enough, it can be a relationship buster.

While every woman has her special hot buttons, there are some things that are a safe bet to tick her off big time. Here’s my rundown of 10 things you should never say to your mate. I’m sure you can come up with a few more. Avoid them at all costs. Never is a strong word. This is serious stuff.

  1. My ex was a better cook. Women are competitive (guys are, too) and for some reason, it really kicks in for most of them when their culinary talents are questioned. Maybe it’s some deep-seated maternal instinct, but bite your tongue and eat up unless a can of cold beans sounds good to you.
  2. I’ve had better sex. Repeat: women are competitive, especially when it comes to keeping their man happy, as in lovemaking and food. And, nobody in a committed relationship wants to hear about their mate’s past sexual escapades.
  3. How many women you’ve really had sex with. I’m not advocating lying here, but unless you were a saint before you met her, this is a trap with permanent consequences. Whatever number you report, she won’t forget it. The higher the number, the bigger the potential doghouse.
  4. Your girlfriend is really hot. You may find her friend extremely attractive but you better not tell her that. Even if she says her friend is pretty, don’t agree too enthusiastically. Jealousy is a powerful emotion, even for the most secure women.
  5. You need to lose weight. It may be true that she’s packed on a few pounds but she knows that so you don’t need to verbalize it. Besides, anything that requires will power like losing weight or quitting smoking is an individual thing—you can’t make her do it anyway and she’ll just resent you for trying.
  6. I’m smarter than you. We all have strengths and weaknesses and there’s a good chance you’re better at something than she is (and vice versa). Just don’t verbalize it. That will give her the impression you think you’re smarter than she is—dumb move.
  7. I make more money than you. Everyone likes to believe that a relationship is a partnership of equals, and rubbing a big inequity in her face is a surefire way to make her feel inadequate. She’ll start to resent you for it. Remember, money is a leading cause of divorce.
  8. I can’t stand your family. Even if the in-laws are total jerks and she knows it, she doesn’t want to hear it from you. It’s still her family and blood is thicker than water. Be smart and let her do the ragging about her family.
  9. I’d rather watch the game with the guys than hang out with you. Sure, it’s sometimes true, but as the old saying goes, discretion is the better part of valor.
  10. You always do this or never do that. You hate it when you get the always/never routine, so don’t be a hypocrite. It’s a great way to paint yourself in a corner because chances are, it’s simply not true.

Jeff Waddle is a featured contributor to ManoftheHouse.com.

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